A Perfect Day

Yesterday was not a perfect day.  That’s not to say I haven’t had one, because I have. That day was 14 years ago. I was kneeling in the sand, listening to the waves beat gently on the beach.  But yesterday was far away from the warm ocean breeze and seagull spotted skies that continue to add substance to an enduring memory.

Last night, as we gathered around the piano at home, I was somewhat out of tune with the beat, the piano, and my wife.  She had called us all in a few times before, but because I was intent on getting a few things done, and she was teaching our oldest son something on the piano, I merely passed through the room from one errand to another not really paying attention. Her intention was to have our family sing a song together, I misunderstood that.  When finally got on the same page, now more than a little flustered at each other, I decided to make a joke because I thought she had made a cute joke at my expense, but It wasn’t, and I made it worse.  The details aren’t important but suffice it to say that it was a far from perfect evening. 

I share that story, not so you will think my marriage is in jeopardy, but because that’s life.  It’s not perfect; it’s messy, complicated, wonderful, and full of surprises.  Fourteen years ago today, however, I got to experience a perfect day.  She let me pick her up and take her with me to visit my mom in Freeport, TX.  I had purchased a single white rose from a local florist and had it waiting for her when she got in my truck. We talked about the future, our plans, dreams we had, and held hands during that 4 hour drive.  When we got to the beach I made up an excuse to get her to go on a little walk.  My nerves were shot. I honestly knew she was going to say no.  How could she say yes?  She would have done well with someone else if she wanted, there would be plenty of options for her; but for me, she was it.  As I knelt in the sand, the ring in my palm, and said the words I had rehearsed over and over again,  I couldn’t believe her answer.  We cried, we hugged and we kissed. Then, we planned the wedding.  That day, fourteen years ago today, has endured in my memory as a perfect day. 

They don’t come along often, but when they do they are everlasting.  The kids, dogs, hurt feelings, house payments, and stresses of life would come later.  For those brief eternal  moments, the future lay out ahead of us as wide and inviting as it ever had been before. Now, after fourteen years of being together, I’m glad I asked her that short, four word question, “Will you marry me?”  And I’ll be forever be grateful for her “yes”.  We are not a perfect marriage; we are imperfect people by nature, but we’re working at it.  I’m sure, one day, with practice, we’ll figure out the right way to do it.  Until then we’ll just have to enjoy the imperfect days, as well as the perfect ones.

 

Thank you, Tiffany. Without that “yes” I would be half the man I am today.  

For the Dad I wish I’d Known

For as long as I can remember my Dad has been my hero.  One of my earliest memories is of my Dad and I driving to our favorite fishing spot, him looking at me and asking “are we best buds?” and me saying enthusiastically “yes!”.  I caught my first fish in the “mud hole” that day.  I remember the line going taught and setting the hook just as he had taught me. Instead of simply reeling it in I began running backwards and pulling that poor fish through 6 feet of mud before Dad stopped me.  He laughed for a long time about that.  It is one of my clearest memories of childhood.

Shortly before my 15^th birthday we drove to a used car lot not far from where I live with my family now.  There was a car there that he wanted me to see.  I had no idea what a Ford Mustang was until that day.  I sat in the passenger seat of a 1968 blue mustang as dad test drove it. It had a straight 6  200 with a 3 speed and an AC unit that would barely work.  It shook a bit at 65 miles per hour.  I had no idea that car would give me some of the best one on one time with him.  In the coming months I would learn more than I could imagine about clutch’s, pressure pads, alternators, voltage meters, alignment, and everything that a 60’s model car could teach you. I heard stories about he and my mom,  his experiences growing up in Corpus Christi, and life in general.  All the while listening to classic rock on the "boom box".  We spent hours with each other and that car. While I cherish every one of those memories now,  all I could think about as we drove it off the lot that day, Steppenwolf’s “Magic Carpet Ride” blasting through the cassette deck, was about how it needed a proper CD player and how girls were finally going to notice me.

I wish I would have never sold that car.

Throughout the next few years we would have our fights, our laughs, and our moments of father and son bonding.  He would support me through my dumb decisions.  I would think that he was silly for worrying.  That Mustang gave me the freedom to go, and go I did.  Dad and I had would have all the time in the world later. He and Mom were supportive of me and I could tell how rare that kind of trust was. On the night I graduated High School he was so proud.  I can still see it in his eyes when I think about it.  But there was no time to waste, college was waiving at me from the horizon.  With it a wider world, more time with friends, and less time for mom and dad.

In the Book of Mormon there is a recording of a relationship between a father and a son that I have always found heartwarming.  Nephi is a young man, who's brothers do not believe much of what he says or does.  His father, however, shows time and time again how much he trusts and admires his son.  While I do not have brothers, or siblings for that matter, I have always related to this feeling of trust from a father to a son.  I felt that from my dad. I hope that one day my children feel it from me.

On September 19^th 1998, just a few months after graduation, I lost out on getting to know better the greatest man I ever knew.  I’m not sure why this month, this year, has made me think about it more.  Perhaps it’s because I am approaching an age where I will have less years of being with him than being without him. I have found myself randomly visiting spots that we would frequent.  I happened to be passing by our lake place at the beginning of the month and stopped to check it out.  While out working I found myself parked at the business he had started before he died.  The receptionist is the only one that Is still there from that time, but the minute she saw me she gave me a big hug and talked to me for a long time about the past.  It was good to reminisce.  It is always nice to hear about him through the filter of someone else’s experience with him.  There has never been a bad story in the bunch.

There are times when I am saddened that I did not get to know my Dad in the adult years of my life.  I have found that many of his insights into my dumb teenage decisions were true.  It would have been nice to tell him he was right.  I think he would have loved to hear it. I would have liked to have been a man at the same time he was a man.  To ask him, am I doing it right? Do I represent our family well? I would have liked to have gotten to know him better.  I am grateful for the knowledge that I have that I will see him again.  That, at least, gives me hope when I feel that I have missed out on the experience of having him around to see his grandchildren.

There are few promises for our mortality. For the most part we do not get to pick how or when we are done here.  I appreciate the short amount of time I had.  I long for the Father I wish I could have known.  I feel so much like him at times, and like I have so much more to learn at others. 

How grateful I am that such a wonderful man was my Dad.  I’m not sure if those who have passed have the opportunity to read the things we write.  I would imagine that Wi-Fi in the afterlife never crashes, unless it’s AT&T. But if on the off chance that this message reaches past the 0’s and 1’s of the internet I hope that he knows of the gratitude I feel for him. For the great example of husband and father he was. That his life left a great impression on me and that I look forward to that happy and glorious reunion that will provide me a way to know him better.

I love you dad.

TJ

Why My Imperfect Marriage is Better Than a Disney Love Story

As a young boy I recall watching the Disney cartoon Sleeping Beauty.  In my perception, at the time, the story is that of a young woman that finds herself, after some unfortunate circumstances, in need of a prince to rescue her. I remember the prince having to fight his way through thorny vines just to get to the young woman who was helpless to save herself. In my childhood I remember thinking that this must be the way to impress a woman!  You have to save them, helpless as they are.  By the time I had matured into a teenager I realized that was not the case. Still, there remained an impulse, perhaps a residue of some of those “helpless maiden- prince on a trusty steed” movie messages In my mind that I still felt in some small way that I needed to “save” my future princess.  To be a man, busting down doors and cutting my way through thickets to save her. (Metaphorically speaking of course, I’m somewhat small in stature and the door would probably not bust down easily.  I’m also not a great gardener.)

 That feeling vanished quickly after being married.  If you’ve met my wife you know she is not the kind to lay around waiting on someone to swoop in and save her. 

That said, I believe that I am lucky enough to have my own type of fairy tale marriage.

Our fairy tale marriage is not the same kind that Disney would portray. We have fought on many occasions, and we’ve had a lot of great times too.  There are still nights that we stay up late talking about everything.  I can truly say that she is my best friend. We have seen each other at our worst and our best.  My jokes, more often than not, have proved to be annoying to her and misplaced at times. (She clearly doesn’t understand good humor.. I’m Hilarious!)  We have served together at home and church, helped each other on lessons and talks, and fought over the meaning of certain scriptures only to realize that we were both saying the same thing in a different way. Our journey has been amazing at times, hard at others, and sometimes just OK.  She has been there at my side when I’ve lost my job and I’ve been the shoulder she needs to cry on when devastating family matters weigh her down. We have always tried our best, and failed sometimes, to be there for each other.  We have been fortunate enough to have three beautiful children who are amazing, even though we can attest to being sub-par parents a great deal of the time.

Our fairy tale marriage has not yet included me riding on the back of a white horse (The only time I did as a kid I fell off), ready to pick apart a thicket with my bare hands.  (Although I still harbor a hope that I can talk her into letting me buy a classic mustang like I had in my youth, what middle age man doesn’t need a classic sports car with a lot of horsepower!?!)  In short,  I do not see my wife as a helpless person who needs me to save her.  Our fairy tale is the kind where both of us are elbow deep in the thicket. Hands and arms scratched, scarred, and bruised, working together to get to where we both want to be and finding joy in serving each other towards a common goal. I love her, she loves me. I do not listen to her at times which really makes her mad and I guarantee she’s made me upset more than once. But she is still the most beautiful woman in the room to me.  She steals my heart every day.  I don’t fall in love with her every day, but I’ve stayed in love with who she has become, and who we are together. We are both different people than what we were when we said yes  13 years ago today.  In Steven Sondheims play “Into the Woods” the Baker and his wife have this exchange -

“We’ve changed. We’re Strangers. I’m meeting you in the woods.  Who minds, What Dangers? I know we’ll get past the woods.  And once we’re past  Let’s hope the changes last….”

I love who she has become, I hope she likes who I am now as well. I love who we are together. It’s been 13 wonderful, crazy years.  I look forward to many, many more.  Happy anniversary Tiff! Lucky # 13!! 

Full Disclosure - Tiffany will no doubt edit my grammar mistakes on this post in short order.  She's better with that, and I'm OK with it ;) 

Twenty Six Point Two

Twenty Six Point two definitely seems longer when spelled out.  It’s less daunting to write it numerically, 26.2.  Either way you put it down, that’s how many miles I’m about to run. 

Shortly after finishing third in my age group at our local yearly half marathon, I decided it was time to push myself a little more. On a runner’s high about finishing a good race, feeling confident in my accomplishment, and with encouragement from my wife, I decided to go all in.  This would be the year that I would complete a full marathon.  I had an idea of what it would take, but never realized the full scope of the commitment until after I started looking at running plans.  In my haste, I paid for the race before I saw what the plan looked like.  Had I known, I might have chosen a different route.  Something a tad easier perhaps - like a 400 meter dash?

For those who have never thought about being crazy enough to attempt to run such a long distance, let me be very clear.  The training is pretty much all you have time for in the months leading up to the marathon.  It consumes your diet, your mornings, and your evenings.  In the short 3 months that I started training for the full marathon after doing the half in mid-march I’ve logged well over 400 miles of running.  I’ve been chased by dogs, honked at by cars, attacked by mosquitoes, waved at by other runners, and propositioned by “ladies of the night” that were out for their morning stroll.  I’ve run on roads, trails, dirt tracks, treadmills, in parks, on streets, and (on my longest training run) between my home town and my current town even getting lost a time or two along the way. Through rain, sleet, humidity, blazing sun, ice and snow I’ve trained for my run while traveling through Texas, Louisiana, New Mexico, Oklahoma, and Utah.  Along the way every member of our family has joined me at one time or another, including the family dog.  It’s been tough, but fun, and has proved to be an opportunity to find out more about myself in the process.  While I have seldom enjoyed it during the run (I rarely get a runners high but tend to have what I call the Runners swears), I have always been able to look back and appreciate the journey.    I have wondered if I would get a life lesson from all of this.  I thought it would come from the marathon itself.  Instead, as I finished another training run tonight, I had a different epiphany.   I wondered if I’ve taken enough time to really enjoy the training.  I’m not sure if I fully appreciate how much I’ve had to push myself to be in shape enough to run the full 26.2 miles. It seems rather interesting that I would have to put in over 400 miles in such a short time to have enough muscle, strength, and stamina to last the entire race.  That’s just the physical aspect, not to mention the mental endurance that will be needed! Still, even with all the training and preparation, there are few guarantees.  Who knows how the actual race will go this Saturday.  Even with all of that prep, there could still be some pitfalls and trials along the way. 

During those thoughts, as if on cue from some ever present corner of my brain, images of my three beautiful children and my amazing spouse materialized in my mind’s eye.

I started wondering if I have been a good enough trainer for our children. I wondered if I’m a good enough co-trainer with my wife.  After all, are we not trying to help them learn the skills that they will need once they hit their own marathons? Are we giving them the right nutrients to help them persevere through the long and treacherous miles that lay ahead? Am I finding joy in the opportunity to teach them what I’ve learned? Am I slowing down to “run” at my wife’s pace, or speeding up to catch up to her? Are we keeping pace with each other?  All of these thoughts came in a flurry as I pounded through the miles tonight.  I wondered what it will be like when I walk with them to the starting line and watch nervously as they take off on their own.  I made a vow to cheer them on unconditionally once they get there.  I realized that this time to train is short and I better become a better coach or else they may not be fully prepared when race day comes.  I need to learn to work together better with my wife; after all we are coaching equally for the same team.  I have a hope that when they set off on their own and run toward their futures that they will fully understand that their race will not be like any other.  They will have moments of great triumph, followed by moments of pain and uncertainty.  Sometimes they will have to slow down and walk, or sit, because that happens.  That it’s ok to fail, as long as you get back up and go again.  That if they come in first, or last, or in between my love for them will not change. 

If they stumble and fall, it’s ok.  It’s just a scratch or a bruise.  Just keep moving. Keep running up the hill, on the other side it’s a relieving descent for a few miles.

It may be silly to take so much from such an unimportant thing.  Yet I find that as I look back, the training went by way too fast.  All of the miles are done and the marathon is before me. I feel prepared, whatever that means.  My legs are stronger than ever, but what made them that way is now just a memory. 

So, here’s to the training, and the trainers who are struggling to get it right. The relief will come when we are all standing at the finish line together in an embrace and jubilee that comes from leaving it all on the road.

Deep breaths - we’ve got this.

-TJ

When you say “That’s so retarded”

   In 2013 my wife, Tiffany, made a new years resolution to scrub the phrase “I’m/ That’s so retarded” from her conversations.  I decided that I would do it in 2014.  Ever since our youngest son was born with Down Syndrome that phrase has meant something different when we hear it.  I am reminded of the Princess Bride when a friend, or relative, or someone I don’t even know uses it.  The voice of Inigo Montoya whispers into my head “You keep using that word, I do not think it means what you think it mean.”  “Inconceivable!”  I think, “that everyone says that phrase without a second thought”.  As many parents who navigate the new waters of parenthood having a child with special needs will attest, we know what that word means.  We feel its connotation when it’s said. 

   I do not, for a second, believe that most people use this phrase in hopes to make anyone feel bad.  Many people, upon meeting Austin for the first time, will swoon over his sweet smile.  His loving personality can win anyone over.  At church he is a hit! All of the ladies think he’s the cutest and want to hold him.  He has offered hugs to people at just the right moment.  When I run with him, everyone waves.  When we go to the supermarket complete strangers will stop what they are doing just to say hello.  No one despises him.  No one talks negatively to us about him. Yet the phrase persists. People at church have lightheartedly made comments about “riding the short bus” when referring to themselves or others.  I have friends and co-workers who will use the phrase, and catch themselves as the word "retarded" leaves their mouth.  I can tell instantly by their awkward pause that they are waiting for me to say something, or get upset.

   So, for the record, when you say “I’m/that’s so retarded” I don’t get upset. What does happen is that I live a lifetime in that phrase.  I think of kid’s that will use that term to tear down my son.  I think of a label and a stigma that will be placed on him for all his life. I think of other children with Down Syndrome, mental retardation, autism, or physical and emotional disabilities. I am reminded of new parents that are navigating eel infested waters, sensing the danger and always waiting for the next attack.  I think of our other two children, who do not see Austin as anything other than their little brother, and I wonder what that phrase will mean  to them.  I know you don’t say it with malice.  Many of you don’t even realize you are saying it. It has become a go-to phrase for many, as it was for me.  I do not judge anyone for using it.  I only wish that you would think about what it means to us.  My son is so much more than a label and he deserves much more love and respect than that phrase offers.  I offer my feelings so that if, by chance, you find yourself using that phrase to one of the thousands of parents, family, or friends of someone with special needs, you may think for a second about what it means to us. That you may think about what it will mean to Austin.

TJ

Why I Run With Austin

By: TJ

     Why in the world would I want to push a stroller, complete with a 20lb baby, through the blowing wind and flowing hills while trying to complete a race?  There have been a few times when the stroller feels more like a sail or a cart full of lead than a baby carrier that I have asked myself that question.  As I ran this morning, pushing my sweet son Austin, and trying for a personal best at a 10k, I had to block those thoughts and keep pushing on.  In the moments when I thought about taking a  few beats to slow down, Austin would look up at me, smile, and give me one of his patented "thumbs up."  I would know intrinsically that I had to push on and not let the hills beat me.  Since the first half marathon I competed in almost a year ago I have a special shirt that I wear.  It does not sport a logo of a well known exercise company (although I do have more than my fair share of those, much to my wife's chagrin) .  Its not a homage to a great superhero either, although that would be kind of cool.  It's a nice running shirt with the anagram for the National Down Syndrome Society (NDSS) and a label on the back that says that I'm Austin's dad. A title that I hold sacred and dear above all other titles that I've been given in my life. I never thought that I would find myself running, let alone running while pushing a stroller, but when I chose to start losing weight over two years ago I caught the bug.  After learning about the NDSS and finding out that I could run as a member of their "team," I felt like it would be an awesome opportunity to raise awareness for my son and others like him.   But why run WITH him? Why put myself through the added stress of pushing him when I could just as easily raise awareness by wearing my shirt...

    A few weeks ago at one of our DS group meetings a young lady from a local high school came and gave a presentation.  She had decided to give a speech at her school on Down Syndrome, in large part because she knew one of the families in our group.  After speaking about many of the things we as parents already knew, (third replication of the 21st chromosome,  delayed development, ect..), she began to tell a story.  It was the story of a young kid with Down Syndrome that was loved by his family at home, had friends, and had the things that he loved in this world.  But then one day at school kids started making fun of him. In time, he felt like an outcast and was not accepted socially.  I was expecting that the story would end with one of the popular kids standing up for him. Instead it ended with the young man taking his life.  He chose to commit suicide instead of being ridiculed by his peers.  I was dumbfounded.  That wasn't what I had expected.  I had become so used to the "good" stories of kids and families with disabilities that I had put blinders on to the bad ones.  That begged the question: Do we mostly focus on the good, heart warming stories?  Are there still sad stories out there?  The ones where the child with special needs gets bullied and made fun of?  The ones where those children are driven to frustration and self harm?  The stories of parents that are frustrated by schools that won't listen, or doctor and hospital bills that pile up and wont go away.  Of coarse those stories are out there - numerous ones. I suppose the real question is,  "Are we paying attention or do we have blinders on?"
   Then, at around the same time, a close friend of mine contacted me on the phone.  I was traveling for work and he called to to tell me something that had happened.  That day he had been on his Facebook account when one of his old High School friends private messaged him and others a picture that was degrading to people with Down Syndrome.  There were several responses of "LOL" and "Haha Good one!"  But as my friend looked at the image he felt something else.  He sent his friend a separate private message telling him he thought that the image was in poor taste.  His friend then posted another offensive image, directed at him.  My friend again responded that he thought it was not something that he wanted any part of.  He did that over and over again until it stopped.  That day, he stood up for my son in a way that I didn't expect. He deserves a superhero symbol, one that I would put proudly on my NDSS shirt and represent his heroism in the face of being shunned socially because of his convictions.  I was grateful that he shared that. I was buoyed  up by the fact that if we can touch a life for good, sooner or later things will get better. 



   So, why do I run with Austin?  I figured it out today as I approached the finish line, Austin asleep, and my beautiful wife, Tiffany and our other two amazing children waving us on.  I run with  Austin so that hopefully one day he will be able to run with me, beside me.  So that one day he will be able to run on his own.  So that when the world sends it's worst, he will have something to deflect the worst, and turn it into good.  So that he will know that some days he will run a little slower, and that's OK.  But some days, like I did today, he will have a Personal Record (PR in the running world).  That will make him get on the road, day after day, to reach another Personal Record, and another, and another until the world sees him as more than just a boy with Down Syndrome. Until they see him as a Child, a Young Man, and then a Man.  He will be a man ready and willing to face the world and all the good and bad that's found there.

Family Home Evening

I'm getting re-started on this family blog for the umpteenth time, but I refuse to give up completely.  Also, I'm so happy with my new camera TJ and the kids got me for Christmas.  It takes better pictures, formats easier to the computer, and just all around great!  Also, the battery compartment isn't broken like my other one with batteries falling out every other shot.  Improved functioning is always a plus.  So, I've got more great pictures to share!  

Tonight we had our first Family Home Evening of the year.  TJ was able to be home instead of out-of-town for work, so we all really loved that.  Dinner was rough trying to get everyone to eat without fussing about something, but happily we were able to get everyone together to enjoy our family night. 

We started with one of Austin's favorite songs, "I am a Child of God."  

James shared a scripture he chose from the Book of Mormon, Words of Mormon 1:1-2.

TJ gave a good lesson on love with the two greatest commandments.  He knows a lot about that :)  It was probably more directed at the kids, but "loving means listening" was something we all needed to hear and act on more.

Then we enjoyed the sweet cocoa snowmen treats the kids got from Tia Kimberlina, Tio Marco and Elli.  Loved them! 

Then we got to sit by our warm fire in this very frigid Texas January, enjoying our hot chocolate and marking all the journeys the kids have been on in their short lives.  We gave each of the kids a U.S. map for Christmas to mark all the places they have gone and will continue to go in their lives.  I'm sure one day they will need a world map, but it's a good start to remember their early years a little better.  We looked through pictures to remember the places and times - memories to cherish forever. 

As always, we are looking forward to next week Family Home Evening again.....

Where The Dogwood Grows

Honey Girl

   A few weeks ago our sweet dog, Triumph taught our family a valuable lesson about death and the love that one has for a dear pet.  As a father, I am always amazed that God has put on this earth, even in something so simple and lovable as a Dog, an opportunity for growth and understanding.  This morning we were taught another lesson about love, friendship, and the enduring bond of companionship, even in animals.  Triumph's best friend and companion is, and has been, Honey.  Tiff and I found her on the side of the road several years ago when we were expecting James.  Someone had dumped her and another puppy by a trash bin and left them to fend for themselves.  I spent about 30 minutes trying to catch both of them, but Honey was the only one that would let me catch her.  The other scampered off into the woods where I couldn't get him.  The idea was to take her to the pound.  I should say MY idea was to take her to the pound.  Tiffany soon grew to love her, as she does all stray animals and people, and decided that we should keep her.  She became our third dog, and for a while, her and Tiff were the only girls in our house of boys:  Moab, Triumph, James, and Me.  Honey became very loyal.  When we moved to our new home she developed a passion for barking, and waking the neighbors.  We tried everything to get her to stop.  Shock collars, spray bottles, threats, but none of them worked.  Shortly before Triumph passed, we got a collar that would spray her when she barked and that seemed to help.  But when Triumph passed, she stopped barking completely - the product of a broken heart.  As Tiff's mom and we have nursed her and tried to help her the last few weeks, we have seen a change in Honey that was much deeper than just losing another dog that she could run and play with.  Her heart was broken.  She was in pain.  James and Jade would go out and throw a ball with her.  That seemed to help.  We gave her more attention, and that seemed to help some.  But it couldn't overcome the grief she felt for her buddy, her companion, Triumph. She's always had bad hips and over the last few days she hasn't been able to walk.  We took her to the vet to see what he could do and he gave her a shot to help with the inflammation. We brought her home Wednesday from the vet and tried to nurse her back to health, giving her liquids through a syringe so that she would drink.  As I went out this morning to give her some more pedialite I could tell that she had passed on.  Minutes before I had seen her move some, trying to get in a better position.  Many people have thought that we were a little nuts to have 3 dogs.  There are times when I have agreed with them. But today our sweet Honey taught our children, and us, something that words could never possibly convey.  That love and friendship is a strong bond.  That those ties are stronger than any rope or cable.  That loyalty is a trait to be admired, nurtured, and never abandoned.  As Easter Sunday approaches we will be reminded of that bond.  We will remember the love that our Savior has for us, and that the loyalty and love that He has for each of us made it possible for us to repent and live again.

In between Honey and Triumph we have planted a Dogwood tree.  It is one of my favorites, and a tree that always reminds me of my Dad.  Every time that tree blooms in the spring time it will remind us about love, loyalty, and friendship and that those bonds continue from this life to the next.  Thank you, Honey and Triumph, for teaching us the value of a good furry friend, even though it hurts when we have to say goodbye.

TJ

Where the Dogwood Grows

 

 

The kids made these cards for Honey:

Jade's Honey Picture

Jade's Card

Triumph & Honey's Big Red Dog House

Austin's ONE!

This feels like the fastest year of our lives.  Our baby Austin is 1!  He is sweet, cuddly, stubborn, lovable, smart, adorable, playful, loves his big brother and sister, and is a mama's boy (for now).  He claps, waves, he's ticklish, laughs,"talks," says "DADA," rolls all over, learning to finger eat, sits up by himself, and now we know he loves cake!  Austin is such a blessing to our family and we hope and pray for his continued progress and good health.  He lights up my day.  Over the last year I have often thought, "What was I ever concerned about taking care of a baby?  Austin is so easy.  It's my other two that argue, disobey and are most difficult at times.  I can just love, clothe, change, and feed Austin and he's so happy."  There's is something wonderful about every age of life, but nothing like having a baby around to bring so much happiness to our home.  Thank you, Austin!  You continue to inspire me and bring joy everyday.  We love you!

We practically had a week-long celebration.  We will start with his TEXAS party....

The morning of the party, Daddy ran his first 1/2 Marathon with Austin's name on the back of his NDSS running shirt.  He did awesome and we all got to see him run in at the finish line.

Then the party started that afternoon.  We had a Texas photo backdrop for everyone to take pics for Austin to see later who came to celebrate his BIG AS TEXAS #1 Birthday with us.  Everyone shared some of their favorite things about Texas with the props they chose. 

Mommy & Austin

Ashley Cheney gets credit for this great shot.  She says she never catches this so she was so excited that she got a good one.  Thanks, Ashley!

Granny Great, Papa Paul & Nana Noi

Grandma Waite & Grandma Great

Tio Marco, Baby Elli & Tia Kimberlina with one of their favorite things about Texas :)

Baby Elliana & Austin

The Mathis Fam - Brandon, Emerson, Felicia & Donaven

We played "Pin the Star on Austin" - Texas, of course, not the baby :)

James' turn

Jade's turn

Jackson's turn

Our winner was....Kaitlin!

Gift Time

Granny Chris made Austin this precious pillow case with all our family pics on it.  I love it and I know he will too!

A new toy to play with from the Mathis Fam!

More toys!

Paper is the best, though.

Our little Texan was ready for his cake.  He is the cutest in his adorable cowboy hat from Papa Paul & Nana Noi.

Wish I had videoed him eating the cake because he really tore into it...

...as you can see :)

Our Texas decor included the party favors made with help from friends and family - THANK YOU!

Cousins - TJ & Kim

Young Cousins - Grayson, Kim & Jason

Jade & Emerson are best buds

Carol & Papa - Native Texans are AWESOME!

Jason, Kim, Uncle Frankie, Grayson & Aunt Debra

Austin was tired after a long party day.

We included some of our favorite Texas traditions:  Bluebell Ice Cream & Texas Sheet Cake

Asleep for Ms. Heather (his Physical Therapist) and...

Happy and awake for Ms. Jessica (his ECI coordinator).

Austin's Birthday with just us.

He has the greatest smile!

He's showing us his cool moves

Gifts from Mom, Dad, James & Jade...

Notice the Texas Flag Bag

A new mini-diaper bag!

He loves to read with James & Jade

More playing time with new toys and the cutest little cowboy around these parts....

Guess what March 21st is every year?  WORLD DOWN  SYNDROME DAY!  So, Jade, Austin & I rocked our socks in honor of Austin's extra chromosome which is the 3rd copy representing the 3rd month of the year and on the 21st day because it's his 21st chromosome.  Not only is it just 3 days after Austin's birthday, it's also his best bud, Lincoln's birthday too who was born the same year. 

AUSTIN IS ROCKING HIS 3 SOCKS BECAUSE HE ROCKS HIS EXTRA CHROMOSOME!

All three of us stacked up together having tons of fun!

This was part of the party decor, but here are the up-close shots of Austin in 12 months:

Birth

1 month

2 months

3 months

4 months

5 months

6 months

7 months

8 months

9 months

10 months

11 months

1-year-old and ready for more adventures!